Category Archives: Death

The purge

I have been purging my house of clothing, books, junk, and rubbish. The purge commenced after my mother’s death in February 2016. I felt the need to bag up her belongings and donate them to charity. I could not be … Continue reading

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Edith Zelman Eulogy – Doris Cahill, author

My mother passed away on February 6, 2016. On February 19th, we held a memorial service. My sister-in-law, Doris Cahill, was one of three to give a eulogy. Here are her words in honor of my mother. Thank you Andrew … Continue reading

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I went to church and there was no bible

This post is dark, and disjointed, and admittedly strange; it is raw and vulnerable, bare as November herself. Read it at your own peril. The Darkness and the Mud I experience a slow, sinking feeling, as if I’m losing myself … Continue reading

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This is what I spared you on Father’s Day

This is what I wrote on Father’s Day, and what I spared you so as not to ruin your holiday. Well, the holiday is over.  It’s Father’s Day and my father is dead.  He is dead 7 years now, and … Continue reading

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50 Gifts for My Birthday

On my desk at work rests a photo of my father and step mother in their early 50s. As my 50th birthday approaches at the end of April, I try not to over think that photo taken in 1986 at … Continue reading

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Thoughts on “A Smirnoff and Coke”

If you haven’t read my essay, and you’re interested, here is a link to Connotation Press-An Online Artifact that will bring you to editor Robert Clark Young, and to my essay, “A Smirnoff and Coke.” I wanted to use this blog … Continue reading

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Luggage and Baggage

June 23rd, 2011 on a plane to Seattle: I am flying across the country on a 737 Alaska Airlines jet to Seattle to visit my friend and fellow writer, Erika Sanders. We will be staying on Whidbey Island, a long … Continue reading

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